27 Mar

I promised myself I was not going to tackle this subject.  And here I am this morning, getting ready to do it anyway.

My Facebook page is starting to blow up with = signs and the like.  I don’t engage in any of that because debates on FB are never the way to win someone to Christ.  You can’t interpret tones, you’re inviting division by allowing everyone’s eyes to see  and take part in which statements they agree with by hitting the thumbs up to add “likes” and additional comments; which divide the two sides quickly.  And it usually looks like you’re “attacking” when you publicly comment against something on someone elses page. So, I’ve remained totally silent.

However, if I’m able to type it properly here, I’ll give  my words a voice.

The Bible defines marriage as one man and one woman, united as one until death. (Gen 2:24 – Matthew 19:5 – Eph 5:31)

The Bible defines homosexuality as a sin in both the Old Testament and the New Testament. ( I Tim 1:10 – 1 Cor 6:9  – Gen 19:5-7)

The Bible tells us not to judge those outside the church. (Matthew 7:1 – Luke 6:37)

The Bible tells us to judge the actions of those inside the church. (I Cor 5:9-13)

The Bible tells us to love our neighbor as ourself. (Lev 19:18 – Matt 5:43)

The Bible tells us to repent of all sins, because we’re all sinners. (Matt 3:2 – Mark 6:12 – Luke 5:32)

The Bible NEVER tells us to compromise Truth for the sake of equality, freedoms or rights.  In fact – The Bible tells us to DIE to OURSELVES!


Here is where I start to have a problem with “God Given Rights!”

One of the main points I’ve heard in this great debate is that men and women are born gay.

(Let me say I agree that men and women are all born sinners, so I agree the desire to sin happens from birth.)

So, how could we as a world deny someone rights to something they were born with the desire to have?

God’s purpose for us has been the same forever.  He desires of us in marriage to go forward as a model of the relationship of Christ to the Church as well as to be fruitful and multiply. God states numerous times in scripture that Children are a blessing from the Lord.

How contradictory would it be for Him to create humans who cannot marry each other and be fruitful and multiply?

And if you can’t do those things, how contradictory to be born to be in love with someone of the same-sex, and also desire to have children?  I don’t see how you can be born with the desire to have children, but also to be with someone you can’t have children with because of anatomy.

What about the barren woman?  Two things, when sin entered the world, so did disease, birth defects and consequences. Some women can’t have children because of medical conditions they were born with.  We are however given testimony that God CAN and HAS given the barren woman a child. (Truly it should read – Women! Not just once – you may even know someone who adopted a child only to get pregnant miraculously a couple of months later!)  (Luke 1:5-25 – Gen 18:9-15)  We don’t have any testimony of God making it possible for two women or two men being able to have a child together outside of adoption. No provisions have been made to their anatomy.  God wouldn’t give us a desire that can’t be fulfilled and He’s never fulfilled.  Our sin nature however, will give us all sorts of desires we CAN fulfill but SHOULDN’T fulfill!!!

The greater point here though is this…. I could talk to anyone engaging in homosexual behavior and find sin in their past or present that has NOTHING to do with who they are attracted to, and have MORE THAN ENOUGH to explain why they need a Savior.  Church – how about we stop focusing the platform that engages the blinders and start sharing Jesus with them on the account of all the things we can agree on.  And then we trust the Holy Spirit to do HIS job, which is to convict them of anything they need to rid from their lives.

That doesn’t mean we promote equality and compromise scripture.  But it does mean we stop standing in picket lines screaming about how wrong they are.  And we stop  posting on Facebook about how all homosexuals go to hell.  And we stop trying to preach to our homosexual friends about their lifestyles and we start being compassionate for their sin nature by sharing with them the reasons WE need a savior and let them find themselves in what we have in common.

We’ve ALL broken many of the 10 commandments (numerous times!) We’ve told lies, we’ve loved things more than God and created idols for our attention and worship, we’ve lusted, we’ve slandered our neighbors, we’ve stolen things.

Stop talking about what we don’t agree on, and start talking about what we do agree on.  And trust that Jesus can remove blinders and we cannot.

Practical Application –

Focus on what we have in common.

Disagree with compassion, not condemnation and hate (even though you’re also being attacked for being a Christian.)  Sometimes being called to walk with Christ brings persecution and condemnation.  The Bible tells us to rejoice.  And to turn the other cheek.  Not to repay evil with evil.

Choose your platforms wisely.  Facebook arguments are often NOT fruitful.

***  If you’d like to comment to disagree with me, you’re welcome to leave questions and give me the chance to respond but please don’t leave hateful comments as a personal attack on me or my faith.

I didn’t attack anyone in my post. I have no reason to attack anyone.  I simply shared my belief.  Please have the same courtesy or the comment with just be deleted.

*** I also cannot claim to present these arguments or answer ANY of these questions NEARLY as well as This FANTASTIC Blog can.  I’d HIGHLY recommend (no matter if you totally disagree with me or agree with me, that you check out THIS blog before you even comment to me.  She has tackled SO MUCH MORE IN DEPTH every area of this from her study, life and devotion to the topic.  So please, see was she has to offer! It’s GREAT!


10 Responses to “Marriage”

  1. Stephanie March 27, 2013 at 11:18 am #

    Thank you for putting so eloquently to words what I’ve been feeling in my heart. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

    • Kayla Gulick March 27, 2013 at 12:16 pm #

      Thanks Steph! We work awesome as a good sounding board and test dummy for our thoughts 🙂

  2. askthebigot March 27, 2013 at 12:36 pm #

    Thank you for your humbling words about blog. Love love love this:

    “But it does mean we stop standing in picket lines screaming about how wrong they are. And we stop posting on Facebook about how all homosexuals go to hell. And we stop trying to preach to our homosexual friends about their lifestyles and we start being compassionate for their sin nature by sharing with them the reasons WE need a savior and let them find themselves in what we have in common.”

    Amen girl! Preach!

    • Kayla Gulick March 27, 2013 at 12:55 pm #

      Thank you! And thank you for your blog! It’s been such a blessing!!

  3. zanspence March 27, 2013 at 1:19 pm #

    Wow. A very coherent, compassionate and non-compromising piece.

  4. yinkaenahoro March 27, 2013 at 2:18 pm #

    This is a well written post….one that expresses my sentiments as well. Jesus dined with sinners. He defended them and He died for them. Jesus being the only atonement for sin we cannot die for another sinner, but we can love, dine with and defend them….” Let him who is without sin cast the first stone” ….. and the “Christian” community promptly throws hundreds of them. Is this how we show Christ to the world? Thanks again Kayla for this wonderful reminder.

    • Kayla Gulick March 27, 2013 at 2:39 pm #

      You’re welcome. Sometimes I think Christians believe they aren’t defending their faith if they don’t vocalize their feelings about sins…. but in the process they lose their compassion, tack and general ability to remember how much they have in common.
      Have a blessed week yinkaenahoro!!

  5. Bethany May 19, 2013 at 7:42 pm #

    Thank you for being bold, humble, and compassionate about this subject while still maintaining the integrity of God’s Truth. His Spirit is at work in you through this blog consistently. Thank you for being obedient to Him.

    • Kayla Gulick May 19, 2013 at 8:07 pm #

      Thank you. Your words are SO kind!

      I’m honored by the feedback and encouragement! It really means a lot to me!

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