She gets her way all the time.

29 Apr

This weekend has been a WHIRLWIND! I am SO sore. I haven’t hurt like this in years! We cleaned both houses, moved EVERYTHING from the house and garage, and unpacked all but 2 boxes in just three days. We had some wonderful people help out and it was beautiful weather too!

It’s awesome being in our new house. We love it. And making it our own and getting it cleaned up, fixed up, and changed around is going to be a S L O W process, but every little step will just make it better and better!

OK – enough about that!

Saturday night we stopped working about 6:00 and decided to go on a mini-date since we didn’t have the kids. It was nice to go grab something to eat and hit up Walmart for some odds and ends we needed for the house, just the two of us.

We found ourselves discussing a few different couples and their relationships. It came up because we have had a LOT of decisions to make in the last month, but especially this last week, and all three of these couples stick out in our minds when it comes to “making decisions.”

And this is why.

There are two couples that we both describe like this: “She totally wears the pants in that marriage.”

And then the third couple is totally similar, yet extremely different.

With the first two couples, the wife calls the shots, always. The only time the man makes a decision is if she seriously has no opinion, which is very rare. She doesn’t give input, she has the only say., that matters that is. Even in circumstances where the husband strongly disagrees or would prefer to do it different, it doesn’t matter at all. (And yes, we have seen this played out numerous times. This sadly isn’t just an assumption.)
And even though the husband loves his wife, and wants to see her happy, that isn’t why he goes along with everything she says. It’s because he can’t deal with the repercussions of her NOT getting her way. The fit throwing, bad attitude, pouting behavior is overwhelming and it isn’t worth getting a say.

The third couple though is totally different. She has a voice in the marriage, and she actually gets her way most of the time. Her husband loves her, and he chooses to respect her opinions and wishes and longs to see her happy. However, when he has a strong opinion or feels something is not best for him, her, or the family, he does not always take her suggestion. And she accepts and appreciates his decision without throwing a fit or pouting. She doesn’t get in a bad mood and allow tension to hang around for a day or more. She knows that most of the time, her input is very valuable to her husband, but when he chooses to do something different, he must have insight that she doesn’t and she trusts him.

To us from the outside, these attitudes SCREAM from their marriages. And we’re taking note.

Practical Application:

What happens in my marriage?

Am I proud or disappointed with my own behavior?

What might be “screaming” from my marriage? Is it an accurate reflection?

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2 Responses to “She gets her way all the time.”

  1. Jenn April 30, 2013 at 10:51 am #

    It’s always interesting the insight that you can gain from friends…or just other people. One time we were reminded as a church, keep in mind that Jesus is always in the room. Would you act that way if you could see him? Or do you forget that He’s there? Great reminder in your post today, thanks! Have a great day, and I’m glad you are able to get so much work done in such a short time!! I’d like to see pictures of your new house!

    • Kayla Gulick April 30, 2013 at 12:15 pm #

      Great points Jenn!!

      I’m hoping to get a picture of us on the front porch together this week/weekend. And then I’m going to take before pictures and then show after pictures as we’re able to work on each room. It’s going to be fun!

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