A letter to my boys….

15 Aug

Dear Boys,

I never felt the need to write you a letter at the start of any previous school year before this year, I suppose that could be taken as naïve –  but then again, I never thought this day would come, and it feels like a bigger year than all the others.

School is not going to be the same this year.  I know you’re use to memorizing a Bible verse every week, learning Bible stories, and going to chapel every Wednesday.  As well as praying at the start and end of every day and counting on your teachers to give you godly advise whenever you need it.

The normal routine will not be like this in Public school. It’s going to be a lot different.

For starters, there are going to be a lot of kids.  And by a lot, I mean A LOT.  You’re use to fifty in your entire school, and you’re going to have about seventy-five in just each of your grades alone.  The first day walking in will be scary.  But Dad and I will both be there to go in with you.  And that brings me to my first point.  Daddy and I are ALWAYS here for you whenever you’re scared.  If anything happens this year that makes you nervous, feel unsafe, frightened, or sad – I want you to come to us right away.  We’re on your side, always.  That doesn’t mean you will get away with things because we’re on your side, but it does mean that you belong to us and we’ll protect you no matter who, what, when, where, why or how you got into any given situation.  We will do whatever it takes to keep you safe.

The next thing you need to know is that with so many more kids, you’re going to be exposed to things you’ve never seen or heard before.  Not everyone is a Christian. And because of this truth, that means not everyone will live their lives to honor Christ and follow Scripture.  This is where wisdom and discernment will come in handy.  Whenever you feel in your gut that something is wrong, or remember what you’ve learned at home, school or church is different from what is happening – you’re going to have to be brave and courageous and do the right thing.  God always rewards obedience, even if you don’t see that immediately – you will see God’s blessings for doing the right thing.  And rebellion always has negative consequences.  Even if you don’t see those right away – you will have to answer for your bad decisions and it will cost you something. As you grow, we’ll share more of these realities from our lives with you, so never think this is just a warning, it is a reality.  Obedience is always worth it.

You’re going to hear naughty words; don’t repeat them.  Ignore them and continue to use appropriate words. You can be a trend setter if you stick to your guns and don’t be wishy-washy acting one way at certain times and another way at other times.  Our tongues have the power to speak life and death — you cannot praise God and also curse other people, so use your tongue to speak life and build others up.

You’re going to see people getting picked on.  No matter what you do, don’t join in. Ever.  Scripture tells us that some will entertain the “least of these” and in doing so have entertained angels.  Every person was created by God and for God – we’re all equal – by picking on others, it’s like saying you think you’re better than them and can treat them poorly.  You’re not better than anyone.  You might make better choices than some, but you’re not superior to anyone. Be humble, don’t think more of yourself than you should. Be a friend to everyone.  You never know when your friendship will show someone Christ through you and you’ll have the chance to share Jesus and they’ll accept Christ as their Savior and go to Heaven.  Our goal is always to share Christ.  And the best way to share Christ is through friendship. So be friends with everyone!!

You’re going to experience more intense peer pressure.  Basically that means, when a large group of people is doing something, and you’re the only one who isn’t – it creates a BIG temptation to join in just because you don’t want to be the odd man out.  Adults experience this too.  And it’s tough to make the right choice, but not impossible.  Scripture promises that no temptation is too big for you to escape and God will provide a way out if you call on Him.  Stop and pray whenever you feel that pull to just join the crowd even though you know it’s the wrong choice.

You might have teachers who don’t believe in God.  This is going to be different.  But listen up, you can still respect their authority as your teacher, even if they have different spiritual beliefs than we do.  I’ll let you in on a little secret — kids teach adult things all the time!  And your actions will show what you believe.  If you make good choices, you’ll stand out from the other kids and even an adult will admire what is different about you and want what you have that they don’t – which is Jesus.  So be respectful, submissive, and make good choices and you’ll witness to your teachers this year too.

You’re not going to pray as a class at school.  But that does not mean you can’t pray silently in your mind whenever you need to talk to God.  Part of following Christ is talking to Him all day long every day about all situations.  No one can keep you from praying – so always talk to God first about your day and then to us when you come home.

And lastly, sometimes we don’t understand what God is doing, or why things are happening the way they are – but God promises to work all things together for the good of those who love Him.  The Bible is full of men and women who were asked to walk a road that didn’t make any sense to them, but ended up being good for them, for others, and brought God glory and honor.  This year may not have looked like we thought it would, but God has a plan and will use this year to grow you in your characters, faith, obedience, and courage.

Daddy and I are praying for you every day.  You’re going to be awesome.  We’re so proud of you.  And we love you so much!

Love, Mommy





6 Responses to “A letter to my boys….”

  1. trixie1466 August 15, 2013 at 9:52 pm #


    This is priceless!! I can truly see Jesus through you. Thank you for sharing this publicly.


    • Kayla Gulick August 15, 2013 at 9:59 pm #

      Thanks Trixie! It was hard to write. And it’s going to be a challenging year for me as a mom, but I know God is using this to stretch us!!

  2. howsyourlovelife August 15, 2013 at 9:56 pm #

    Good job, Momma. Some advice? Let them hear your pray every single morning as they leave the house or car. And, at the appropriate age, you might consider telling them which words are the ‘naughty’ ones, along with the definition of each. It takes the mystery right out of them, and they trust you all the more because of it.

    • Kayla Gulick August 15, 2013 at 10:02 pm #

      Yes! I have always driven them to school and this year I still will be. We started the habit on the first day of Kindergarten 4 years go to pray on the way to school – so we will keep that going!!

      That’s a GREAT tip about telling them the naughty words – AND MEANINGS – I do want my kids to “know” what’s going on so they can know WHY we aren’t doing certain things instead of just being told “no.”

      I so appreciate any tips and advice so if you think of something else through out the year — please let me know!!!

  3. Jenn August 16, 2013 at 11:36 am #

    Oh my goodness Kayla, it’s that time. I will be praying for you and them to transition well. Your words of Truth are well spoken, and my child hasn’t started school yet so I think I’ll include what you have written here in a conversation with Cameron. I hope that even beyond their first day goes well for them, and since you know there is a plan, just look for the beauty in God’s plan as you start this school year. It’s there, and it’s ok. My favorite is when you spoke of your children influencing adults. This is so true and so humbling, seeing that children can have a wisdom and understanding, and their innocence will hopefully bring some adults to their knees. Goodluck to you, change is tough.

    • Kayla Gulick August 16, 2013 at 11:43 am #

      Thank you Jenn!! I’m so thankful for the added prayers for my kids, but also for me too. Change is tough — especially when it’s a guarantee to more worldly exposure. I know God will use this year to teach and mold all 6 of us. Good Luck to you this year and to Cameron at school! We’ll be praying for you guys too!!

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